Experiences are active participation in events or activities leading to the accumulating knowledge, skill or lesson. Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward. Life imposes us new experiences daily, which possibly we have not ever thought to happen. I have the habit of writing the daily events that some of them bombshell or surprise me. This week, this week, I have eye witnessed a super lie and situation influenced me writing an article for the same. Honesty is the chapter of the book of the wisdom. Lying is the complete opposite of truth. So, anything that is untrue and deliberately intended to mislead another person is a lie. A lie, therefore, can be anything spoken or written that is totally or partially baseless, unreal, made-up, distorted or exaggerated; Lying and falsehood are widespread problems and are roots of other problems that occur on an individual and public level. Lies are spoken and written in the media and in politics, in business and in personal dealings. Like most religions, Islam in general, forbids lying. The Quran says, “Truly Allah guides not one who transgresses and lies.” Surah 40:28. In the Hadith, Mohammed was also quoted as saying, “Be honest because honesty leads to goodness, and goodness leads to Paradise. Beware of falsehood because it leads to immorality, and immorality leads to Hell.”Lying is against human nature and physiology, and like any other disease, it has its own unique signs and symptoms. The act of lying produces inner conflicts between various control centres of the brain. The moment one begins to lie, his body sends out contradictory signals to cause facial muscle twitching, expansion and contraction of pupils, perspiration, flushing of cheeks, increased blinking of the eye, tremors of the hand, and an increased heart rate. These constitute the basis of lie detector instruments. In addition, certain unconsciously made movements are noticeable in those who lie, like the constant covering of the mouth, touching of the nose, rubbing of the eye, scratching the side of the neck, rubbing the ear, etc. One of the clearest signs is that the liar keeps his palms closed and his eyes in another direction to the person he is lying to, in an attempt to avoid eye to eye contact.
Lies may come in all shapes and sizes and sometimes have an embarrassment of reasons behind them, from avoiding personal harm, wishing to avoid hurting someone or to protect them, to actively seeking to get some form of gain from someone (material, social, or emotional). The ethical nature of lying is not the subject of this article; rather, this article is about the steps taken once you’ve hurdled your personal moral, faith, or trust issues with lying, and have made a decision to go ahead and lie. Lying means you’ve already crossed any moral or ethical hurdles, and justified to yourself that the lie in question is now a necessity. A poor liar often trips up through continuing to struggle with the morality or faith issues behind the decision to lie. Regardless of the reasons, if you want to lie successfully, you need to reach a place of internal equilibrium where the lie is adequately justified in your own mind. Lying is despised because it has a tendency to hurt, cause disruption, and comes with major costs sometimes including loss of social or financial status. And lying violates trust at both personal and societal levels, when most of us would still like to keep striving toward being able to trust one another. Yet, it is arguable that sometimes a lie has a place, to protect a reputation, to prevent hurt to someone else, to ease tension and so on, but it will always depend on the context and extent of the lie, as well as the legality/morality of what is being lied about. Lying now and then is a personal decision. However, be realistic with yourself; using lies to avoid responsibility every time something goes wrong in your life can lead to compulsive lying and inability to tell the difference between the need for honesty and the need for safety – a state of mind that can ruin your life. Under what circumstances are you willing to risk damaging relationships, reputation and future opportunities and those intend to lie should consider the probability of being detected before launching into your lie, ask yourself what the chances are of being caught. Your lie may because you stress, guilt, or make you feel like a bad person. Keep this in mind and remember that it will always be in the back of your mind. It may weigh you down. Man can forget his anger, but never for his lies. Sincerity cannot be faked. Sincerity of feeling, intent and presentation touches the hearts of everyone. But what exactly defines sincerity? And how do you achieve it? No other formula exists for sincerity than to be sincere by being genuine, having faith and trust in yourself, and just being rather than trying to project something that you are not. At the same way alone as you do when in the presence of others. This is the real you and this is the person that people will warm to and trust. If you try too hard to be what you think other people want to see in you, the result will not be sincere and you will spend a lot of time projecting a persona that is not a real part of yourself. That is not only hard work but is ultimately insincere.
Your beliefs must become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, and your values become your destiny.” Desires dictate our priorities, priorities shape our choices, and choices determine our actions.” Belief means nothing without actions. Carefully watch your thoughts, for they become your words. Manage and watch your words, for they will become your actions. Consider and judge your actions, for they have become your habits. Acknowledge and watch your habits, for they shall become your values. Understand and embrace your values, for they become your destiny. One of the great tragedies of life is that men seldom bridge the gulf between practice and profession, between doing and sayings. The sentiment behind the saying actions speak louder than words is expressed in many cultures. Another way of looking at this old saying, “actions speak louder than words,” is as a guide for how to live life. Actions should meet verbal obligations or sentiments, and they should not contradict them. If a person constantly talks about the plight of the poor but never thinks of donating to a charity or in any way mitigating that plight, their words have a hollowness or empty quality.However there is certainly evidence that actions speak than louder than words in a variety of circumstances. The parent who tells a child not to smoke and then lights a cigarette is unlikely to convince that child of the evils of smoking. This has been proven by statistical information showing the greater likelihood of children becoming smokers if their parents smoke. Clearly, in some instances, actions will influence more than words, and though words remain powerful, how people act may mitigate the effects of language, or prove its power. In the end, let us compare hypocrisy and sincerity and chose the appropriate one that can develop society to further progress. The English quote what dictate that “We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.” is based on truthful evidence. a narrative of English song says the following : We are all equal in the fact that we are all different. We are all the same in the fact that we will never be the same. We are united by the reality that all colours and all cultures are distinct & individual. We are harmonious in the reality that we are all held to this earth by the same gravity. We don’t share blood, but we share the air that keeps us alive.Telling the truth and telling a lie can both be convenient at different circumstances. But in terms of potential consequences and moral values, telling the truth is oftentimes better. Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar substantiates the idea that telling the truth is better than lying. His story proves that telling the truth is better than telling a lie. A story in Shakespeare’s play Julius Caesar demonstrates that telling the truth is better than lying because lying has worse consequences. In the play, Brutus kept his hostile feelings towards Caesar a secret, and pretended to support him. Instead of being able to peacefully dethrone Caesar, Brutus assassinated him. Eventually, the public found out and threw Brutus out of the city. Because Brutus lied to Caesar about his true feelings, instead of telling the truth, he was banished from Rome and faced a horrible consequence. Lying has worse consequences than telling the truth. Telling the truth is, in a great majority of the time, better than lying. Truth can sometimes benefit the person and lessen the consequences also. But in many times, lying will lead to even worse consequences.
All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood. I have the same opinion with the statement “honesty is the best policy”. People will be able to trust people who are honest, liars will have rumours spread around about them, and it’s just plain easier to tell the truth. Nobody likes people who lie all the time and won’t know whether to trust them or not. People get annoyed by people who lie a lot. Being honest and having a reputation of never lying makes people trust them more. People are more likely to come up to a person who tells the truth and ask them a question. They are more likely to get the right answer and not a lie. People who tell the truth are more respected and aren’t looked down at for being a liar. People can be trusted more when they constantly tell the truth. When they ask if they can go out and do something, they are more likely to be able to because others trust them and they don’t have to worry. Liars have rumours spread around about how they lie all the time. Nobody wants to talk to them because they won’t know if they are lying to them or not. They aren’t trusted as much as people who don’t lie. Liars never get very far in life and always have a reputation of lying. It’s much better to tell the truth and have friends who trust them, rather than lying and having rumors spread around making no one like them. Dignity is as essential to human life as water, food, and oxygen. The stubborn retention of it, even in the face of extreme physical hardship, can hold a man’s soul in his body long past the point at which the body should have surrendered it. According to Wikipedia, there are 29 types of lies namely:
1. The Occasional Liar – These people seldom lie. But when they do they are blown away by their actions and feel guilty for what they have done. These types of people are the ones who are quick to seek forgiveness from the person their lied to.
2. The Smooth Liar – The smooth liar is just what their description sounds like—this person has become very smooth and skilled at telling lies. There are those that say they can pick out a liar every time, but that’s not necessarily so when it comes to the smooth liar. This liar is so good with words and body language people tend to believe him even when they know he has a reputation of being a liar.
3. The Compulsive Liar – This person lies when they don’t have to, even if telling the truth makes more sense than the lies they tell. These people have an addiction to lying, and they simply cannot stop. They are out of control. They spend hours studying situations trying to come up with more lies that will allow them to maintain all their previous lies. These people are totally untrustworthy and end up unable to keep friends.
4. Error a lie by mistake. The person believes they are being truthful, but what they are saying is not true.
5. Omission – leaving out relevant information. Easier and least risky. It doesn’t involve inventing any stories. It is passive deception and less guilt is involved.
6. Restructuring distorting the context. Saying something in sarcasm, changing the characters, or the altering the scene.
7. Denial refusing to acknowledge a truth. The extent of denial can be quite large—they may be lying only to you just this one time or they may be lying to themselves.
8. Minimization reducing the effects of a mistake, a fault, or a judgment call.
9. Broken promises: Broken promises are a failure to keep one’s spoken commitment or promise. Broken promises can be especially damaging when the person who made the promise had no intentions whatsoever of keeping their word to begin with.
10. Fabrication: Fabrication is telling others something you don’t know for sure is true. Fabrications are extremely hurtful because they lead to rumours that can damage someone else’s reputation. Spreading rumours is not only a lie but is also stealing another’s reputation.
11. Bold faced lie: A bold-faced lie is telling something that everyone knows is a lie. It’s simple and sometimes cute for a little child to tell a bold-faced lie about not eating any cookies, even though there’s chocolate all over his or her face. As we get older, we try to be cleverer with our cover-ups. Some people never grow up and deal with their bold-faced lying even though others know what they’re saying is completely false. When people hear a bold-faced lie they are resentful that the liar would be so belittling of their time and intelligence.
12. Exaggeration: Exaggeration is enhancing a truth by adding lies to it. The person who exaggerates usually mixes truths and untruths to make they look impressive to others. An exaggerator can weave truth and lies together causing confusion even to the liar. After awhile the exaggerator begins to believe his or her exaggeration.
13. Deception: A deceiver tries to create an impression that causes others to be misled, by not telling all the facts, or creating a false impression.
14. Bad faith. bad faith is lying to one self Specifically, it is failing to acknowledge one’s own ability to act and determine one’s possibilities, falling back on the determinations of the various historical and current tantalisations which have produced one as if they relieved one of one’s freedom to do so.
15. Big lie. A lie which attempts to trick the victim into believing something major which will likely be contradicted by some information the victim already possesses, or by their common sense. When the lie is of sufficient magnitude it may succeed, due to the victim’s reluctance to believe that an untruth on such a grand scale would indeed be concocted.
16. Bluffing. To bluff is to pretend to have a capability or intention one does not actually possess. Bluffing is an act of deception that is rarely seen as immoral when it takes place in the context of a game,
17. Bullshit.Bullshit does not necessarily have to be a complete fabrication. While a lie is related by a speaker who believes what is said is false, bullshit is offered by a speaker who does not care whether what is said is true because the speaker is more concerned with giving the hearer some impression. Thus bullshit may be either true or false, but demonstrates a lack of concern for the truth which is likely to lead to falsehoods.
18. Butler lie. That describes small/innate lies which are usually sent electronically, and are used to terminate conversations or to save face . For example sending an SMS to someone reading “I have to go, the waiter is here,” when you are not at a restaurant is an example of a butler lie.
19.Contextual lie. One can state part of the truth out of context, knowing that without complete information, it gives a false impression. Likewise, one can actually state accurate facts, yet deceive with them.
20.Economical with the truth. Economy with the truth is popularly used as a euphemism for deceit, whether by volunteering false information (i.e., lying) or by deliberately holding back relevant facts. More literally, it describes a careful use of facts so as not to reveal too much information, as in “speaking carefully”.
21. Emergency lie. An emergency lie is a strategic lie told when the truth may not be told because, for example, harm to a third party would result. For example, a friend may lie to an angry husband about the whereabouts of his wife, who he believes has been unfaithful, because said husband might reasonably be expected to inflict physical injury should he encounter his wife in person. Alternatively, an emergency lie could denote a (temporary) lie told to a second person because of the presence of a third.
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22. Fib. A fib is a lie told with no malicious intent and little consequence. Unlike a white lie, fibs rarely include those lies or omissions that are meant to do good.
23. Half-truth .A half-truth is a deceptive statement that includes some element of truth. The statement might be partly true, the statement may be totally true but only part of the whole truth, or it may employ some deceptive element.
24. Honest lie. An honest lie (or confabulation) can be identified by verbal statements or actions that inaccurately describe history, background, and present situations. There is generally no intent to misinform and the individual is unaware that their information is false.
25. Lie-to-children. A lie-to-children is a lie, often a platitude,, which may use euphemism which is told to make an adult subject acceptable to children.
26. Lying in trade. The seller of a product or service may advertise untrue facts about the product or service in order to gain sales, especially by competitive advantage. Many countries and states have enacted consumer protection laws intended to combat such fraud. An example is the holds a seller liable
27. Misleading and dissembling. A misleading statement is one where there is no outright lie, but still retains the purpose of getting someone to believe in an untruth. “Dissembling” likewise describes the presentation of facts in a way that is literally true, but intentionally misleading.
28. Noble lie. A noble lie is one that would normally cause discord if uncovered, but offers some benefit to the liar and assists in an orderly society, therefore, potentially beneficial to others. It is often told to maintain law, order and safety.
29. The Beneficial Lie is used by a person who intends to help others. for example keeping an announcement person in your house for safety reasons,.
In conclusion: Man can forget his anger, but never for his lies. Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing. Few men have virtue to withstand the highest bidder and once someone is a liar, he lost his reputation in the society.
Your character whether you are a straightforward person or a liar produces our reputation in the face of the society. Our social gathering with friends, relatives and public places like schools, offices, work places, companies, organization, and relationship with your parents gives each individual a certain degree of reputation from 1 point to 100 appoints, but what is reputation. Reputation is an opinion of a social entity for a person, company, organization or social group a result of social evaluation. Reputation is important for individuals or for any other institutions. Reputation determines our identity with others. Its influence ranges from competitive settings, like markets, to cooperative ones, like firms, organisations, institutions and communities. Image is a global or averaged evaluation of a given target on the part of an agent. It consists of set of social evaluations about the characteristics of the target. Reputation, as distinct from image, is the process and the effect of transmission of a target image. Image and reputation are distinct objects. Both are social in two senses: they concern properties of another agent the target’s presumed attitude toward socially desirable behavior, and they may be shared by a multitude of agents.
The person with the good reputation is going to get introduced to lots of people with a positive referral. The person with the bad reputation won’t get those positive introductions. The person with the good reputation might have someone speak up on their behalf during a hiring process. The person with the bad reputation might have someone speak up against them during a hiring process. The person with no reputation won’t have anyone speak up for them at all. A good reputation is valuable.
It’s something you’re going to want on your side. Many people, as they enter adulthood, do not have much of a reputation at all. Sure, some people have already done exceptional things and have a bit of a positive reputation, and others may have done some silly things during their teen years and developed a bit of a negative one, but both of those can be wiped clean by moving to a new area. There is always a chance to improve your reputation. Our reputation represents the way others look at us and as such is at once critically important and utterly trivial. We won’t need others to think well of us though many of course do struggle with this and often find their sense of value vulnerable to the opinions of others especially their perception of the collective opinions of others. Critically important, however, because even those of us with resilient self-esteem live in a great social network and need a good reputation for practical purposes friendship and income chief among them. It’s hard to have friends if people think you’re mean-spirited and hard to make a living in any capacity if people think you’re lazy, unreliable, or dishonest. Your reputation is in the hands of others. That’s what the reputation is. You can’t control that. The only thing you can control is your character. If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of itself. Character is what you are. Reputation is what people think you are. The reputation is not essentially built by earning too much, learning too many things, achieving awards, bagging rewards or catapulting position to the hilt; but by unquestionably staying simple, humble , well grounded and doing nothing that makes own conscience to feel guilt. 1. Character is like a tree and reputation like its shadow.
The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing. Your brand name is only as good as your reputation.” A brand for a company is like a reputation for a person. You earn reputation by trying to do hard things well. It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently. “Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company. I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin, but by the content of their character Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character is who you are, and your reputation is who people think you are. Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are. While your reputation is merely what others think you are. Regard your good name as the richest jewel you can possibly be possessed of for credit is like fire; when once you have kindled it you may easily preserve it, but if you once extinguish it, you will find it an arduous task to rekindle it again. The way to a good reputation is to endeavour to be what you desire to appear. Whether true or false, what is said about men often has as much influence on their lives, and particularly on their destinies, as what they do.” Reputation runs behind the current state of affairs. If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of itself. A good reputation is more valuable than money. Leaders gain credibility through consistent victory and naturally gravitate to people with the longest track records of success and expertise in the areas we need it most. Person’s character depending on how far knowledge or presumed knowledge of a person’s life and actions extends, the general consensus could be as small as that of a village or as large as that of the world. Good reputation is the general consensus that a person is of good (reputable) character. Hence reputations can also be bad. But they can also be true or false true if the consensus agrees with the facts about a person’s character, false if not. Hence reputations can also be bad. But they can also be true or false true if the consensus agrees with the facts about a person’s character, false if not. In conclusion our reputation is in our hands, but judged by others and it is true that every of us has at least a clue of his reputation although no one is willing to admit that in public and good reputation is more valuable than any amount of wealth. Anyone with good reputation automatically generates trust for him in the face of others and that is some members of our society are liked very much by others and others less liked. in conclusion your reputation is the bridge that connects us to the society. Every man builds his world in his own image. He has the power to choose, but no power to escape the necessity of choice.
Ismail Yusuf
